You may roll your eyes, by the most important way you can help is by getting your own education and support. We get so caught up in their addiction that we enable the disease and forget about our own life. Instead, be an example of peace and self-care.
The 6 Things You Should Do to Help
- Get educated
- Evaluate areas you may be enabling and set boundaries
- Keep healthy communication open that stresses sobriety
- Attend support groups
- Participate in individual or family therapy
- Take care of yourself and your own needs
How do I know if I’m enabling?
It’s natural to want to help, but enabling takes it a step too far. We do things out of guilt, fear or control, but we usually call it love.
Deep down you may recognize your behaviors seem wrong or ineffective, yet primal instincts compel us to protect the ones we love.
Enabling happens when you protect them not from addiction, but from consequences that could be real incentives to change.
Covering
- Don’t lie, cover-up or trivialize the facts about their actions.
- Don’t make excuses or apologize for them if they don’t show up for work or family obligations.
- If your loved one disappoints someone, they need to feel that disappointment (not you).
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