Family conflict can be very distressing. While all families have arguments from time to time – if your family stresses you out regularly, that is not healthy. It could be due to someone’s addiction, mental health issues, grieving process, work issues, parenting or other family-related problems. No matter what the case may be, if your family stresses you out, there are some things that can help to relieve the stress and reduce the number of problems in your family, too.
Before diving into these tips, if you or a loved one have an addiction or mental health disorder and need help treating those, reach out to us here at Journey Pure today.
Everyone Needs Me Time
Everyone needs to prioritize time alone, in addition to time with each other. People are made to socialize, but not all the time. Everyone needs breaks from one another in order to keep their mental health intact. Spending too much time with each other may be why you and your family members are arguing so much.
There are some tips on how you and your loved ones can start getting “me time” regularly throughout each week. Some of these tips include:
- If you live with your loved ones or even a roommate, consider taking at least 1 hour each day to yourself (if you need more time or time out of the house, schedule that in, as well)
- Try to take time alone doing productive tasks or tasks where you feel rewarded by the result
- Have an honest conversation with your family members letting them know that you need your alone time and they need to be respectful of that
Taking these designated times out for yourself is going to help relieve your stress. If you find that you are still stressed out, therapy might help you to work through some things.
Talk More About Your Feelings and Needs
If your family stresses you out, there may not be enough honest, open communication going on. Do you find that you often hide your feelings from your loved ones? Are you in a bad mood because you aren’t expressing yourself? Do you have certain family members that anger or annoy you? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you and your loved ones may need to talk more about your feelings and needs.
Some families will hold family meetings once a week or every other week. If you decide to hold these meetings, you should talk with each member of your family and get everyone on the same page. It is important that everyone gets a turn to talk at the meeting and the others listen when it isn’t their turn.
Have Fun Alone and Together
If your family stresses you out, it is important to take time to have fun alone and together. If there is a lot of stress in the family, it could be that everything is too tense. Has there been a lot going on in your family lately? If so, it could just mean that everyone needs to take some time to relax. Some of the ways that you and your loved ones can have fun together include:
- Going to a park
- Going out to eat
- Heading to another loved one’s house
- Going to the movies
- Having movie or game night at home
You could do all these things on your own, if you need time to have fun by yourself, too. You can also take part in your hobbies or other activities that you enjoy. Once you and your family members have some fun, maybe things will calm down a bit.
Take a Deep Breath
There are many deep breathing exercises you can try to help relieve stress. If your family stresses you out or you have other stressors in your life, taking a deep breath could be just what you need to do to start feeling better. One of the best deep breathing exercises is called 7-4-8. You breathe in your noses for 7 seconds, hold it for 4 seconds and breathe out for 8 seconds. Do this as many times as you need to relieve some of your stress. It should also help to take some of the tension out of your body.
Reach Out for Help
If stress is getting to you, it may be time to reach out for help, yes even if it is your family who is stressing you out. There are many resources and people who can be there for you when your life just isn’t going the way you want it to. Some of the people who you may want to reach out to when your family stresses you out include:
- Other family members
- Co-workers (who you are close to)
By reaching out to other people, you will have people who you can talk to and vent to. Generally, when people get things off their chest that are stressing them out, they start to feel better.
Take Time to Calm Down
It is difficult to deal with stress when it comes to your family members causing that stress. However, there are numerous things that you can do to relieve this type of stress in your life. One of the best things that you can do is to take the time you need to calm down. You can do this in multiple ways including:
- Sit in a room by yourself
- Take deep breaths
- Step away from the conversation when needed
- Take a walk
By calming down before you continue spending time with your family member, you can get the break needed, so you don’t get so irritated or annoyed with your loved ones.
Get Help When Your Family Stresses You Out
If your family stresses you out, it is important that you implement at least some of the tips noted above. The more you can relieve your stress, the less irritated and annoyed you are going to be with your loved ones. In addition, if you can relieve some or all of your stress, you can find better solutions to the problems that you and your loved ones are having.
If you or your loved one is experiencing mental health or addiction issues and that is causing the stress, please contact us here today at Journey Pure for treatment and other family resources.
- years in the field