Rehab for a Loved One
When someone is caught in the throes of addiction, it can be extremely painful and saddening for his or her friends and family members to bear witness to. The disease of addiction is so powerful that even the most steadfast and resilient people can succumb to the dangerous cycle that can develop. As others look on as their loved one abuses addictive substances, the pain that can be felt can be almost unbearable. Addiction is a family disease, as it is extremely pervasive and disheartening for all who are touched by it. And even in the moments where friends and family members feel as though there is nothing that they can possibly do to help their loved one, it is important to know that there is.
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When Does a Loved One Need Rehab?
If you have a loved one who is addicted to drugs and/or alcohol, you know all too well just how emotionally, mentally, and physically draining it can be to go through the ups and downs that he or she experiences while using. You know the pain of not knowing where your loved one is and if he or she is safe. You understand how much of a struggle it can be to try and communicate or affect any change in your loved one. And, you are aware of just how much your loved one’s addiction has impacted your life. Even though you might be feeling resentful of your loved one’s actions or in a state of pure anger with him or her, if you are able to help him or her in any way, you know that you would in a heartbeat. However, when you are stuck in the fog that is addiction, knowing how to help and when to help can be almost impossible.
Even though you are aware of your loved one’s addictive tendencies and know in your gut that his or her actions are not healthy, you still might be unaware if he or she needs rehab. You might convince yourself that his or her use isn’t that bad, or that if you change your behaviors, he or she will follow suit. Unfortunately, that type of thinking is rarely ever successful. But, when you are aware of what classifies as requiring professional addiction treatment, you can make a better, more informed decision regarding how to get your loved one the help that he or she needs.
Some of the signs that best signify when your loved one needs rehab can include the following:
- Regularly abusing addictive substances in an effort to cope with emotional stress
- Increasing how much of the substances he or she abuses in order to obtain the desired high
- Being unable to decrease or stop substance abuse without experiencing withdrawal symptoms
- Continuing to use despite repercussions that have occurred due to his or her use
- Using in dangerous situations, such as while driving or while in the company of strangers
- Being unable to control how much he or she uses
- Abusing more than one substance at a time
It is critical to understand that not all people who abuse drugs and/or alcohol are in obvious danger. Some people are high-functioning substance abusers, making it harder to decipher when help is really needed. However, by knowing what to look for, you can help determine when it is time to push for rehab.
What Can You Do to Help?
Having someone who is actively abusing drugs and/or alcohol in your life can have you walking on eggshells in fear of agitating, upsetting, or angering them. One of the last things that you might consider talking to him or her about is going to rehab, as you know that even bringing up that option might lead to defensiveness and backlash. However, you can help your loved one if you are informed and take care in how you do it.
In some cases, those who have a substance use disorder are looking for someone to finally make the decision to help him or her get into treatment. However, more often than not, people who are addicted to one or more substances fear what life will be like without being able to use, making them scared to even consider rehab. Regardless of what side of the fence your loved one lands on, sitting down and speaking to him or her about getting help is the first step. When you approach your loved one, do so in a non-threatening manner. Ensure that you adopt a tone of compassion and understanding, as well as prepare to maintain your patience. If your loved one is somewhat receptive, you can start looking for treatment programs that he or she can benefit from and then share that information with him or her. But, if your loved one vehemently refuses, there is another step.
Several individuals who end up in rehab do so because their friends and family held an intervention to get him or her there. There are several different treatment centers and companies that employ professional interventionists with whom you can work. When it is determined that you will hold an intervention for your loved one, the interventionist will work with you and your family members so that you know what to do and what to expect.
In the event that you are not prepared to do either one of these things or if you feel as though you need more support, one of the most effective actions you can take is to get help for yourself. This can be done by contacting a psychotherapist or even by attending a support group like Al-Anon. Learning how to prevent enabling behaviors, practicing good self-care, and setting boundaries can not only improve your life but push your loved one towards getting help, as he or she will no longer be able to utilize you or family to continue his or her substance abuse.
At JourneyPure, we understand how devastating addiction can be on the family. We know how much it hurts to watch a loved one struggle with a substance use disorder. Therefore, we provide evidence-based, holistic treatment to each patient so that he or she can return to his or her family better than ever.